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RIP Jay

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Its with massive sadness I have to post the news that at the weekend we lost a much loved person from our lives. My daughters partner died suddenly and inexplicably of some kind of seizure aged only 30, leaving my lovely girl, their two children, his immediate family, us, and many friends saddened and shocked.

Those of you that know us will know that Jay and I didn't always see eye to eye.  When I first met him I thought he was gobby, challenging, and disrespectful but as I gradually got to know him I realised he was all of these things, but often in a curious, clever, funny way, but most of all I came to realise he loved my daughter massively and totally adored his two girls... hard not to like such a man.

They in turn loved him very much as well.  Through the many years he spent with my daughter he really grew (up and out).  He channeled his thirst for life, his totally stupid sense of humour, his unboundless energy and motor mouth into building a life and providing for his family, into loving my best girl, and his best girls, and he was unstinting with his love for them.  

It goes without saying his girls are heart broken, as are all his family and his many friends, its hard to come to terms with such a sudden and tragic loss - no warning just a gaping hole where there should be love and laughter.

Our many friends and family are rising to the occasion giving much needed and much valued support -I can only give heartfelt thanks to all.

His baby girl is currently fascinated by the moon so I think thats a good place for her daddy to be, his big girl is being a very helpful and busy big sister generous with cuddles and looking after her mummy.  Its so hard for everyone - we are sick with grief - time will heal and make memories easier to bear but for now my energies are with family issues and blogging will happen as and when.

Those who need to know will be made aware of funeral arrangements and please I ask for no comments to be left on this post - its just a personal post....



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